For many months my parenting dial has been set to survival mode. All the twists and turns of pregnancy, then life with a new baby, has consumed a lot of the space previously devoted to planning activities and crafts with my toddler (as well as updating this space- hello there!). There was a time when I would set up projects for Little Smith at least three times a week, and even lay out a schedule, balancing activities. Now I often can't account for what we did in a given day, or month even.
Initially the guilt and frustration with all that I can't seem to make happen was dragging me down, but lately I've been able to change my attitude and give myself a big break. With a new unburdened perspective, I'm making note of all the little toddler friendly activities that we actually do pull off. There are the usual puzzles and drawings and block building, but more often it's just the mundane tasks that seem to challenge and stretch Little Smith's skill-set..
Taking the time to involve him in basic chores (baking, sweeping, feeding the cat) can actually be plenty engaging. Everything does take longer with a three year old's help, but it's also more fun and I don't have to exhaust myself constantly trying to be creative. I have found that my motivation for creativity is greatly diminished with months of sleep deprivation!
I am still holding my breath for new bursts of energy and organization, visions of a grand vegetable garden are already keeping me warm in this early winter. In the meantime, this week we've been eating our home fries with chopsticks and sorting darks from lights. That's quite a full plate for us, and I am beginning to accept 'good enough' as 'plenty good' for now.