August 15, 2012

Mornings with Pop

With an architect pop who works late more often than not, Little Smith doesn't get to see much of his 'dada' at night. Instead they spend mornings together. Sometimes when Little S sleeps until 7AM it's just 15 minutes, other days when he decides to wake up at 4AM (ahem, this morning!) they get to hang out for a couple hours. Of course I don't really get to sleep during that time with constant intrusions and bed snuggles... but I do get to stay in bed so I'll take it.

On Saturday I get the real luxury of truly sleeping extra late and the guys go off on an adventure. For the first 18 months of Little Smith's life I never wanted them to be gone long. Yes I wanted sleep and peace but I also had this crazy magnet with my baby and I would get antsy when we were apart. Something strange happened about two months ago though when he fully weaned and now I truly enjoy my time alone. It isn't that I'm not thinking about him, he's always in my thoughts somewhere, but I am able to relax knowing that he is cared for by his father. I don't know why that took a year and a half but it's been a total revelation.

These days they usually head to our garden to work and run and explore (and pluck tomatoes before their prime... sigh). Last week-end they came back with these pictures and some yummy bagels and fruit for breakfast. I'm pretty spoiled I know!

It's very moving to see these two fellas that I love so dearly forming a special bond all their own. I did worry early on about Big Smith's work schedule and what that would mean for his role as a father, and it's such a relief to see that he's found a way to really make it work and connect to our son so beautifully.


  1. It IS good to be able to let go a little, at least for a while. Not that easy though, I´m still getting used to the fact that my 10 year old is hanging with his friends for 3 hours without me seeing him..! I imagine it will be the same when my boys are 35 and 38..! :-D

  2. It is nice to get a break, and he gets lots of special time with Pop! You are a lucky girl.

  3. These guys in our lives!! It's pretty fantastic. :) And you are damn lucky.. I'm putting in a request for bagels and fruit when life settles down.

    p.s. we saw the hood blimp over by our house the other day...I wonder if it was the same day!

  4. Lovely pictures. Great t-shirt too. I understand how you felt about letting him out of your sight. We rarely used a babysitter when my kids were young. I still feel funny when they are away, although I definitely appreciate the break! :)

  5. Oh my gosh! He is getting so big! I can't get over that first picture of him with the backwards hat looking skyward. What a cutie!

    I know what you mean about starting to finally be able to enjoy alone time again without the anxiety. I think it is all about breastfeeding. I swear, I am totally fine leaving my two bigger kids with their papa but I do get really anxious when I'm away from Emil for any amount of time. Once he is weaned, I'm sure it will get easier.

  6. What a treasure those moments will be as he grows up! Love the pictures-- he looks so contemplative & down right serious! He shall do great things, I can tell~*

  7. Dada and son time is really awesome isn't it? I love it too. I love to see my boys, all three, out in the yard "working" on projects together and I also like hearing about the adventures they go on - library, park, etc. :)
    So sweet and special.


  8. Awwww! He is SO cute! He looks like a little thug biker here! He's so cute!! :)

  9. Little Smith is SO adorable. I'm so glad you're able to enjoy some alone time now. :) Such a luxury for a mama!